Virtual (and Free) Eating Disorder Support Groups During COVID-19

Posted on April 15, 2020April 14, 2020 by Alison Pelz, LD, RD, CDE, LCSW

Eating disorder recovery may feel like a struggle during the COVID-19 pandemic. This is normal because times of stress and uncertainty, which most of us are feeling, can put a strain on our mental health. Virtual support groups are readily available and often at no cost.

Fortunately, you do not have to go through eating disorder recovery alone during this time. It can be helpful to connect with others going through similar experiences. Many eating disorder treatment centers and professionals are offering virtual services on-line, including support groups.

Virtual support groups can be a great addition to your current treatment.

Groups can be a great way to reduce social isolation while the stay-at-home orders are in effect. In general, support groups can offer many benefits, including improved motivation to recover, strengthened positive coping skills, increased sense of control, and reduced feelings of shame, isolation, depression, hopelessness, and anxiety.

For some, support groups can be a little anxiety-provoking, but a virtual group may be good for a first-time. Due to the nature of the internet, there is some degree of privacy and anonymity. Additionally, groups usually have a leader and a set of groups “rules” to help make you feel emotionally safe.

There can be some downsides to support groups, particularly if they are not well run. Some of the downsides include excessive amounts of complaining (the purpose of a support group is to provide hope), monopolization of discussion by one group member, and potential issues of confidentiality.

Together with your treatment team, you can determine if a virtual support group would be helpful in your recovery. If you don’t have a treatment team or are currently not receiving eating disorder treatment, please click here to learn more about how to find a treatment team.

Free + Virtual Eating Disorder Support Group Resources

Below is a short list of virtual support groups. Many offer multiple support groups that meet the needs of different populations, including adults, teens, families, and LGBTQ folks, to name a few. Also, ask your treatment provider about support groups which they may be familiar with.

A virtual support group can be a great way to augment eating disorder treatment, especially during the pandemic. Together with your treatment team, you can determine if a virtual support group may be helpful to you.

5 Ways to Stay on Track With Eating Disorder Recovery During COVID-19

Posted on April 9, 2020April 8, 2020 by Alison Pelz, LD, RD, CDE, LCSW

Keeping your eating disorder recovery front and center during the COVID-19 pandemic may be the furthest thing from your mind, given that we are all adjusting to a new way of life, navigating uncertainty, and dealing with loss and worries about our health, to name a few pressing issues.

Here are some tips to help you maintain and even thrive with your eating disorder recovery during this unusual and trying time:

1. Keep eating disorder recovery on the priority list during COVID-19.

Of course, your priorities have shifted in the wake of COVID-19. First and foremost, you are dealing with the stress of this health crisis. Time and energies have shifted because you are adjusting to a new way of life, including being cooped up in the house; working or schooling from home; health risks; and isolation.

While these changes may seem overwhelming at times, know that you can tend to your eating disorder recovery during this time. As with everything right now, your recovery may look different than usual, and that’s okay.

2. Stay in touch with your eating disorder treatment team.

If you have not checked in with your treatment team—including your therapist, dietitian, and doctor—that may be a good first step. Most clinicians are conducting telehealth appointments, which may include video conferencing, telephone, email, and FaceTime appointments. Telehealth may feel a little daunting at first, but I am finding it to be an effective way to continue to support clients with eating disorders.

If you don’t have an eating disorder treatment team, read more here about how to find eating disorder services in your area.

3. Accept that your eating may be different during COVID-19, and that’s okay.

Changes in food accessibility, cooking at home vs. eating out, living situation, mood fluctuations, and activity level can all contribute to changes in eating patterns. Talk with your treatment team about any changes you have noticed with your eating as well as alcohol consumption.

4. Stay curious about your eating disorder symptoms.

Your eating disorder symptoms may change, or they may wax and wane during this time. Try to refrain from being judgmental about your eating disorder symptoms.

Instead, ask yourself something like, “I am noticing that I am doing this eating disorder behavior more. What may be going on or what may I be feeling?” Being curious rather than judgmental allows for problem-solving rather than shame.

5. Be as social as you can while physical distancing and stay-at-home orders are in place.

Social isolation and loneliness can affect your physical and mental health. Regularly connecting with family, friends, co-workers and/or classmates via telephone or virtual meetings can help reduce feelings of loneliness. Check with your treatment team, as they may be aware of virtual eating disorder support groups that can help support your recovery during the pandemic.

Your eating disorder recovery may look different than it usually does during the pandemic, and that’s okay. Using the tips above and taking it one day at a time is a good place to start.

Intuitive Eating: 3 Signs That It Is Right for You

Posted on August 6, 2019August 6, 2019 by Alison Pelz, LD, RD, CDE, LCSW

Intuitive eating is a term coined by registered dietitians Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch. Tribole and Resch’s book Intuitive Eating’s purpose is to help chronic dieters and people with food and body image struggles to heal their relationship with food.

Unlike diets, intuitive eating sharpens our ability to listen to our bodies and to understand when we are hungry and full, what foods to eat, and when the best time for our bodies to eat is. This results in a reduction of worry about food and guilt often associated with dieting.

In a nutshell, intuitive eating is learning to tune into your body’s signals in order to feed and nourish yourself instead of a diet or meal plan.

Are you ready for intuitive eating? Here is how to tell:

Are you tired of dieting?

Have you been on almost every diet known to man? Do you feel frustrated that diets work for a while, but then something happens-like a vacation or a stressful event-then you go off the diet?

Trust me, it is not you, it is the diet. Most diets don’t work long -term. Diets fail, not the people on them. Dieting is a known risk factor for developing a full-blown eating disorder. Eating intuitively can help kick diets–forever.

Are you tired of feeling guilty about what you are eating?

Most diets have rigid rules about what, when, and how much to eat. When these diet rules are “broken,” it can leave the dieter with feelings of guilt.

With intuitive eating, there is no set of rules about what is “good” and “bad” to eat. Eating intuitively helps people tune into their body’s wisdom in order to feed themselves.

Do you feel out of control with food?

Diets give us the illusion of control over food. Particularly when you first start a diet, it feels like you have complete command over your eating, until your biology kicks in (because most diets don’t provide enough energy or calories) or you find yourself in a situation that you are unable to follow the diet.

Furthermore, it is natural to have cravings for more food and certain types of foods if you have been depriving yourself by being on a diet. The overeating (perhaps even binge eating) kicks in when you have access to foods that aren’t on the diet.

Again, it is not because you don’t have enough willpower or intellect. The diet is the problem, not you. Studies show that dieting can lead to full-blown eating disorders.

Eating intuitively rejects the diet mentality and “legalizes” all foods, thereby reducing feelings of deprivation around food.

If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, intuitive eating may be the relief you are looking for.

Intuitive Eating is not another diet in disguise or a weight loss program. Intuitive eating doesn’t preach what, when, and how much to eat, Rather, it teaches you to listen to your body’s signs and signals about how to best feed yourself. With intuitive eating, you will gain confidence around how to feed yourself.

Want to learn more about intuitive eating or see if it is right for you? Call for your free 15-minute phone consultation.

Note: If you are in treatment for an eating disorder, talk with your treatment team about if and when intuitive eating is right for you. If you think you have an eating disorder, get an assessment completed by an eating disorder treatment professional before starting intuitive eating.

4 Ways to Build Momentum in Eating Disorder Recovery

Posted on July 23, 2019July 18, 2019 by Alison Pelz, LD, RD, CDE, LCSW

Are you just starting out on your recovery journey? Or have you been in treatment for a while and feel like your recovery is stalled? You’re not alone.

Here are four tips to help build momentum or re-energize your eating disorder recovery.

Establish a complete eating disorder treatment team.

Without professional treatment, eating disorders tend to get worse, not better.

Unfortunately, getting inadequate treatment, such as stopping treatment prematurely or having an incomplete treatment team, happens all too often. It can lead to hopelessness about ever recovering, slow down recovery or lead to recovery burnout.

The gold standard of care in eating disorder treatment is to have a multidisciplinary team. An eating disorder treatment team usually consists of a therapist, registered dietitian, medical doctor, psychiatrist, family therapist, and possibly other specialists. Click here to learn more about how to find a therapist and establishing a treatment team.

Make recovery a priority.

Recovery can feel like a full-time job, which can be downright exhausting. Eating disorder recovery is definitely a marathon and not a sprint. It takes time to understand how the eating disorder serves you and to establish new healthier patterns to cope with life.

Recovery doesn’t happen in a vacuum. Recovery happens while you are in school or working and involved with family, friends, and hobbies. So, it is easy for recovery to be put on the back burner given all of the obligations you may be juggling.

Making recovery a priority is important because without recovery, your eating disorder negatively affects all areas of your life occupation or school, relationships, physical and mental health, and overall quality of life.

Having acceptance that recovery is going to take time and energy is a good first step to making it a priority. Carving out time in your day for self-care, meal planning, eating, rest, and treatment appointments can help you feel less overwhelmed.

Learn to say no.

This is a tough one for me and so many of my clients. Sometimes saying yes is like a reflex because it is so automatic.

Learning to say no is a must in order to make recovery a priority. Furthermore, you may learn in treatment that saying yes too much may be contributing to or exacerbating your eating disorder symptoms.

Not setting firm boundaries can lead to feelings of hopelessness, worry, anger, and resentment, to name a few negative emotions. When we over-extend ourselves, often eating disorder behaviors are used to cope.

Although there are several reasons why people struggle with saying no, often fear is the primary culprit. You may fear missing out, hurting others feelings, appearing selfish or rude, being judged, and feeling rejected.

Learning how to set boundaries takes lots of practice, so be patient with yourself. If you notice that you struggle in saying no, discuss this with your therapist and other treatment providers.

Ask for help.

Working on your eating disorder recovery is something that you are responsible for. However, that doesn’t mean that you have to do it alone.

As you know, loved ones can’t eat for you or attend your appointments for you, but they certainly can support you in your recovery in many different ways.

As you go through recovery, you are going to need help, and that is okay. Often, part of what keeps people stuck in the eating disorder is isolation and feeling like they have to recover alone.

Barriers to asking for help often include fear of appearing weak, feelings of shame or guilt, or worry about burdening others. Your fears most likely are unfounded, as most people like to help others.

So what does asking for help in recovery look like?

Well, at different times in your recovery, it could mean different things. But, for some, it could be eating a meal with someone, it could mean being social, or it could mean simply talking.

It could also mean asking loved ones to learn more about eating disorders or attending a family therapy session or doctor’s appointment.

Consider making a list of people whom you could ask for help by asking yourself, “Who has my best interest at heart and who believes in me?”. Having some people in mind ahead of time can make it easier to ask for help.

Lastly, don’t feel like you have to be in crisis to ask for help. If you have any inkling that you may need help, reach out. Sometimes just the act of reaching out and talking to someone can be supportive.

The recovery road is always bumpy. But, having a strong treatment team as a foundation, making recovery a priority, setting firm boundaries, and calling on loved one for support can often make the bumps feel more manageable.

Diet Culture: A Major Barrier in Making Peace with Food

Posted on July 9, 2019July 3, 2019 by Alison Pelz, LD, RD, CDE, LCSW

Are you trying to heal your relationship with food and improve your body image? Do you feel like everywhere you turn, there is talk about what you should or shouldn’t be eating? Whether you have an eating disorder or have been on the diet roller coaster, you are probably overwhelmed with diet culture.

Our social media feeds are littered with “fitspiration” images, diet trends, and the like.

We hear messages from well-meaning friends, family, fitness instructors, news sources, and the medical community about dieting. Furthermore, it is socially acceptable for women (and now men, too) to bash our bodies and talk about dieting.

In the world of eating disorder treatment, the constant barrage of messages about dieting and how we should look is termed “diet culture.” Diet culture is alive and well in our country. It can be damaging for those who struggle with an eating disorder because it perpetuates the eating disorder.

For those dieting, it can make you feel like a constant failure because diets don’t actually work. Furthermore, dieting is a risk factor for developing an eating disorder.

Diet culture makes us question how we feed ourselves.

It makes us feel disconnected from our bodies and food. Also, it makes us reinforce the habit of comparing ourselves to others to see how we are supposed to look and feed ourselves. It teaches us to ignore our bodies’ cues of hunger, fullness and food choices. Let’s face it-diet culture can make us feel downright nutty at time, leading to a preoccupation with food and weight or even a full-blown eating disorder.

Rejecting the diet culture is a key step in healing your relationship with food. If you are trying to get off the diet roller coaster or are in recovery from an eating disorder, rejecting the diet culture is an important step in your healing.

Diet culture is everywhere, but there are things you can do to avoid its destructive path:

Identify diet culture.

When you see, hear, or read diet culture, name it.

For example, let’s say you are eating dinner with a friend and she says to you, “I am going to have to work out double tomorrow I because I am eating so much.” Normally, you may think to yourself, “Gosh, she is right. We are eating a lot” or “I guess I need to, too.” Rather than continuing on with the diet narrative or talk, say to yourself, “This is diet talk, and it is not helpful to me.” Labeling the thought as “not helpful” prevents you from going down the rabbit hole of diet culture.

Clean-up your social media feeds.

Delete and unsubscribe from folks who promote dieting, and weight loss. Cleaning up your social media feed will significantly reduce the amount of messaging you get about dieting. Avoid “health” and fitness magazines because the whole purpose of these magazines is to sell diet culture!

Seek out and support messaging that is body positive and discourages dieting.

Once you have decluttered your social media feed and inbox from diet talk, stock up with messages that you find helpful. That could mean following folks like Christy Harrison, an intuitive eating coach, and anti-diet dietitian. Or follow Judith Matz, a therapist and author who supports the anti-diet movement. It could also mean subscribing to more things that “fill you up” and make you happy. These could be things like hobbies, travel, support groups, inspirational post, or humor.

Set boundaries with friends and family.

You may come from a family of chronic dieters where diet talk is the norm. But maybe don’t know how to get the conversation headed in a different direction. Diet culture may be pushed on you with simple yet well intended statements like “You shouldn’t eat that,” “Let’s skip dinner tonight,” or “What is the calorie count on this?” Or maybe you are a college student on a campus where diet culture and eating disorders often run rampant. Here are a few ideas to set boundaries up around diet talk. Simply don’t engage in the conversation either by ignoring the comment or changing the subject. Depending on your relationship with the person, you may say something like, “These types of conversations aren’t helpful for me. Let’s talk about something else.” If you struggle setting boundaries, consider the workbook Setting Boundaries without Guilt.

You may feel ambivalent about rejecting diet culture.

Perhaps you are worried about missing the opportunity to find the “magic bullet” to perfect eating. But if you are reading this post, chances are that succumbing to diet culture has made you feel miserable. Since diet culture is everywhere, it is going to take time, patience, and practice to tune it out. However, there will be a huge payoff. It will result in less preoccupation with food, weight, and shape, so you can spend your energy on things that matter most to you.

Must-Ask Questions When Looking For An Eating Disorder Therapist

Posted on June 12, 2019June 12, 2019 by Alison Pelz, LD, RD, CDE, LCSW

Let’s face it, finding the right eating disorder therapist for your eating disorder can be daunting. It can feel downright overwhelming. You may be ambivalent about getting treatment. Maybe you are worried that your eating disorder isn’t “bad enough” to warrant treatment (trust me, it is). Or perhaps you are feeling hopeless about finding another therapist after being treated in the past.

Whether you are an individual with an eating disorder or a loved one of a person with an eating disorder, looking for a qualified therapist can be tough.

This post will give you tips on what to look for in a treatment provider, and questions to ask to help you determine the right eating disorder therapist for you.

Most therapists are willing to talk with you on the phone before you set an initial appointment. They will help assess goodness of fit in regards to scheduling, payment, and issues you may want to address in therapy.

If the therapist doesn’t offer a phone consultation, then these questions can be asked in the initial face-to-face appointment.

You can use the following questions and talking points when interviewing a potential therapist:

How do you help clients with eating disorders?

If a therapist has a lot of experience treating eating disorders, they should have a concise and clear answer. Many well-meaning therapists indicate on their website, referral site, or insurance websites that eating disorders are their specialty, but really don’t have experience treating eating disorders.

Because of the complex nature of eating disorders, try to get a therapist with extensive experience with eating disorders if possible.

Do you have a network of other professionals who have experience treating an eating disorder to whom you can refer me?

If the therapist has experience treating eating disorders, they should have a relationship with other treatment providers in your community. To learn more about eating disorder treatment teams click here.

What hours do you see clients and what are the payment options?

The course of eating disorder treatment can be long. Having a conversation up front with a potential eating disorder therapist about finances and scheduling is important. Be sure that the scheduling and payment options work for you over the longer -term.

Here are a few resources to help you find a qualified eating disorder therapist in your area:

Finding an eating disorder therapist can take time. Consider breaking down your search into smaller pieces and chip away at it each day.

Additionally, if you feel overwhelmed trying to find an eating disorder therapist, ask a friend or family member to help you in your search.

Please call for a free 15-minute phone consultation to learn how I work with clients with eating disorders.

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